So... for some reason... my friend started planning her wedding today even though she has no boyfriend and probably won't get married for some time. In the past, she had absolutely zero interest in this unproductive activity, but she started talking about it today. I may be at fault 'cause I was talking about my good friend up in Oregon, who is planning on getting married next year and I am one of her bridesmaids.
Anyway, my friend wanted a black & white themed wedding and it got really complex with the details so I told her to just keep it simple in order to save her some money and a headache later. We were talking about the line-up and how she wants her brother to be part of the wedding, so I suggested that she just ask him to be her "maid of honor" type of person, and she said that she wanted a maid of honor, but not her brother to be that person. She hopes that her future husband will let her brother be one of the groomsmen and he can have one of his girlfriends be part of her party. I say whatever works.
She then told me that she knew for a fact that she wanted me to be in her wedding. But, I've heard that line somewhere before and I don't bank much on it lol. Many years ago, my senior high best friend told me she wanted me to be her maid of honor, but when the time came, she asked another girl to be her maid of honor. I was never expecting anything, but I did feel slightly disappointed. I found out much later that her maid of honor was the one who set her and her husband up together, so I didn't say anything, because I thought it was great for the girl to be maid of honor. It is the part where people make promises that they can't keep that bothers me is all. I don't like making promises that I can't keep, and I especially don't like it when people can't keep their promises to me either.
But over the years, I've learned to cope with this and just accept that no one is perfect and I just can't have too many expectations of others at all. Anyway, I was slightly flattered to hear about the wedding party thing, but at the same time, unsure of how to actually feel. I guess, I will know the proper emotions when the time comes.
As for me... I don't have much inclination towards chaining myself to an eternity of marital imprisonment at the moment. I am, after all, commitment-phobic and not a fan of men in general. There are no princes or white knights on white horses out there, so I've pretty much given up.
She asked me if I would want my brother to be in my wedding and honestly... I don't know. I think my brother is too lazy for that sort of thing. If my future husband likes my brother enough and they are friends, then I guess... but I don't want to impose anything on anyone. I don't mind if I am not in my brother's wedding if he should get married. I just want to be the girl at the open bar lol ^__^.
Anyway, I have no intentions of marrying a the moment so I guess planning a wedding in my head would be a waste of time.
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