So I came across this as I was surfing the web today and I always wish people could understand who I am, but I'm bad at explaining myself so I found something that is representative of me. I don't believe myself in being a rare breed or anything, but this personality description below is 100% me, if not 100% then 99.9%.
I always get the "How do you know!?" question from people who don't believe me when I say someone is or not gay, or is a good/bad person. I can't explain why, but I always go by my gut and my gut is always right, it is rarely wrong. No one ever believes me, but I am always proven right at the end of the day even if no one ever notices.
It's frustrating for me to be around my friends a lot of times, because they're never supportive of me or like me in anyway. I always feel that the people around me are just so selfish and I wonder why I'm with them. Now that I see myself as a part of the 1% slice of the world population in terms of this personality type, I can see why I'm so lonely.
I am always trying to protect my friends, to help and support them, but when I am in need of a person to be there for me, they flake. When I need someone to stand up for me, they don't. When I need someone to say good things about me to dispel false rumors, they don't. I am always looking out for them, but they never do anything for me. They're constantly breaking my heart, but I just forgive them time and time again. It's just so exhausting to stay angry with them, but I always remember that they hurt me and it builds up. I was sick last week, because my friends stressed me out so badly. When I needed them the most, they didn't help me out and it hurt me really badly. I couldn't tell them how hurt I was, because it was 3 against 1 and if I try to explain myself, I will never win because they're all very selfish people who don't see anything as wrong anymore. They're the type of people who sits at the dinner table and texts other people while ignoring your presence, or shows no gratitude at all after you've planned a nice dinner and cooked for them. They're the type that has no common courtesy or manners, and just don't know right from wrong anymore. They can judge right from wrong when it's something major like stealing versus not stealing, but when it comes down to the basics, they lack all the essential qualities in being a good person. The worst part is that they don't care even if you tell them that what they're doing isn't right. They tell you that they are the way they are and you either accept it or leave it. After being told something like that once, you give up ever pointing out what they're doing wrong anymore. They'll just have to learn it the hard way.
In any case... below is who I am personality-wise:
The Protector
As an INFJ, your primary mode of living is focused internally, where you take things in primarily via intuition. Your secondary mode is external, where you deal with things according to how you feel about them, or how they fit with your personal value system.
INFJs are gentle, caring, complex and highly intuitive individuals. Artistic and creative, they live in a world of hidden meanings and possibilities. Only one percent of the population has an INFJ Personality Type, making it the most rare of all the types.
INFJs place great importance on havings things orderly and systematic in their outer world. They put a lot of energy into identifying the best system for getting things done, and constantly define and re-define the priorities in their lives. On the other hand, INFJs operate within themselves on an intuitive basis which is entirely spontaneous. They know things intuitively, without being able to pinpoint why, and without detailed knowledge of the subject at hand. They are usually right, and they usually know it. Consequently, INFJs put a tremendous amount of faith into their instincts and intuitions. This is something of a conflict between the inner and outer worlds, and may result in the INFJ not being as organized as other Judging types tend to be. Or we may see some signs of disarray in an otherwise orderly tendency, such as a consistently messy desk.
INFJs have uncanny insight into people and situations. They get "feelings" about things and intuitively understand them. As an extreme example, some INFJs report experiences of a psychic nature, such as getting strong feelings about there being a problem with a loved one, and discovering later that they were in a car accident. This is the sort of thing that other types may scorn and scoff at, and the INFJ themself does not really understand their intuition at a level which can be verbalized. Consequently, most INFJs are protective of their inner selves, sharing only what they choose to share when they choose to share it. They are deep, complex individuals, who are quite private and typically difficult to understand. INFJs hold back part of themselves, and can be secretive.
But the INFJ is as genuinely warm as they are complex. INFJs hold a special place in the heart of people who they are close to, who are able to see their special gifts and depth of caring. INFJs are concerned for people's feelings, and try to be gentle to avoid hurting anyone. They are very sensitive to conflict, and cannot tolerate it very well. Situations which are charged with conflict may drive the normally peaceful INFJ into a state of agitation or charged anger. They may tend to internalize conflict into their bodies, and experience health problems when under a lot of stress.
Because the INFJ has such strong intuitive capabilities, they trust their own instincts above all else. This may result in an INFJ stubborness and tendency to ignore other people's opinions. They believe that they're right. On the other hand, INFJ is a perfectionist who doubts that they are living up to their full potential. INFJs are rarely at complete peace with themselves - there's always something else they should be doing to improve themselves and the world around them. They believe in constant growth, and don't often take time to revel in their accomplishments. They have strong value systems, and need to live their lives in accordance with what they feel is right. In deference to the Feeling aspect of their personalities, INFJs are in some ways gentle and easy going. Conversely, they have very high expectations of themselves, and frequently of their families. They don't believe in compromising their ideals.
INFJ is a natural nurturer; patient, devoted and protective. They make loving parents and usually have strong bonds with their offspring. They have high expectations of their children, and push them to be the best that they can be. This can sometimes manifest itself in the INFJ being hard-nosed and stubborn. But generally, children of an INFJ get devoted and sincere parental guidance, combined with deep caring.
In the workplace, the INFJ usually shows up in areas where they can be creative and somewhat independent. They have a natural affinity for art, and many excel in the sciences, where they make use of their intuition. INFJs can also be found in service-oriented professions. They are not good at dealing with minutia or very detailed tasks. The INFJ will either avoid such things, or else go to the other extreme and become enveloped in the details to the extent that they can no longer see the big picture. An INFJ who has gone the route of becoming meticulous about details may be highly critical of other individuals who are not.
The INFJ individual is gifted in ways that other types are not. Life is not necessarily easy for the INFJ, but they are capable of great depth of feeling and personal achievement.
Jungian functional preference ordering:
Dominant: Introverted Intuition
Auxilliary: Extraverted Feeling
Tertiary: Introverted Thinking
Inferior: Extraverted Sensing
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